The Frustrating Voice Of Pain

Written By Drew Coverdale

The Frustrating Voice of Pain.

I know many of your feel frustrated with pain. My thoughts are that pain can become the voice of someone who feels so frustrated with a situation that the pain starts to speak for them.

It said no to more physical tasks.

It said no to more emotional loads.

It said no to more psychological effort.

And the role it took in the moment the pain started was a protective one because that person may have found it so hard or not had the choice to do anything other than keep going.

Recognise a Story

When they recognise their own story, the fear behind the pain stops, and they gather intellectual knowledge in the conscious mind. They expect it to switch off a well-trodden safety mechanism wired in the unconscious part of the brain.

Remember it protects against being overly frustrated and the time when you felt that so intensely it could have, or even did, make you ill.

It became your guardian, and if you now want to return to its previous level of day to day function, you must teach it that you are currently in control.

Present Reassurance

You have to present the reassurance that you have the voice you need to stop whatever happened to you at the time in your life your pain started happening again.

You have to show that the boundaries are now in place and that they say no to the things of overload long before they get close to overload.

That doesn't have to be forever, but it has to be for now. You can’t just switch pain off and expect it to forget how hard that time in your life was. It doesn't work like that.

The wiring is in place forever, just like the memory of a papercut.

Pathway Linked to Trauma

But with a pathway wired during a traumatic time in life to fire with the presence of frustration, it doesn't realise that the event is over. Instead, it reacts without any judgement or determination around where any current frustration appears; it recognises frustration as representing the same threat that brought so much potential destruction to your life.

And it uses pain to alert you never to go back to that moment or feeling ever again.

Now that you have these new healthy behaviours and have learned amazing things with reading, talking, listening and experiencing, applying that knowledge cannot happen as fast as your conscious mind desires it.

It has to happen at a pace where your unconscious mind is convinced that the barriers to danger are in place, and the warning systems that come long before overload are now switched on and listened to.

Feel It With Every Sense

If it doesn't see, hear, smell, feel and taste this to its core and have it repeated, then it cannot wire this protective mechanism back in place, and it will keep the ones that it thinks are working perfectly well.

The unconscious mind doesn't care about the output results of pain; it only wants the protection of the organism. For example, an organism that is alive and in pain is much better than one that is dead. It is all relative to the unconscious mind, which only intends to survive.

Your role now is to overegg the pudding. You're not just kind to yourself occasionally but for breakfast, dinner and tea.

You have to think, breathe and sleep kindness to yourself. You have to move with kind intent and maintain a loving response to yourself no matter what level of experience you encounter with movement.

Start with the challenges that you know don’t trigger your fear, and that intellectual knowledge should give you some good ideas. 

Frustration Can Be Tricky

But watch out for that tricky unconscious mind pop up with the urge to get you to look out for your failure.

If it can sense frustration at any level, it has the perfect neurochemical matrix to fire its favourite protective mechanism for slowing the organism down.

Yes, you will stumble and feel frustrated, just like we do with kids, partners, or training a new pet.

But the rewards for staying calm during the moments that we think the least likely to are the moments of transition which bring the behaviours and relationships with others that mean they were well worth all that effort.

Underlying Belief

Maybe an underlying belief you hold is that you're not lovable, worthy, capable or simply just not good enough, but let me tell you that you are. You are worth making an effort to bring out the best relationship with yourself in your short time on earth.

Start today. Begin now and go and show yourself the tinniest symbol that represents that to you authentically. Show others how you respond differently to your own experiences, and you’ll see a change in them, 

It's an infectious process that brings the potential for change into someone's life that they never thought was possible.

You have already seen this in stories, videos and scientific papers. So be your own experience, write your story, or create your movie with you in the leading role and for no other reason than you are worth it.

What’s next?
Take Your First Step to Recovery.

Drew Coverdale
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